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The Most Courageous Thing You Can Do.. Is Be Yourself! - Coach Mikki
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Coach Mikki and Friends
A Safe Space For Joy, Self-Love, And Remembering Who You Are - Sensei Nancy Mueller - S6E2
What if joy isn’t a reward for getting life “right,” but your natural baseline? Coach Mikki sits down with Sensei Nancy, author, life sensei, and founder of The Dojo, to explore what happens when we stop trying to fix ourselves and start remembering who we really are. This isn’t a pep talk; it’s a grounded look at the mindset, language, and community that make lasting change feel possible.
The conversation turns deeply personal as Sensei Nancy reflects on her divorce and the identity free fall that comes when roles fall away. If you answer “Who are you?” with titles and tasks, this part will land. We talk about becoming someone who can look in the mirror with unflinching love, about declining invitations into unworthiness, and about picking rooms that expand you rather than compress you. Expect practical takeaways and an invitation to try a weekly cadence of reflection, language upgrades, and community support that keeps momentum alive.
If you’re ready to honor your gifts, raise your frequency, and find a circle where your joy is welcome, you’ll feel at home here. Explore Nancy’s books, YouTube topics, and how to join the Dojo. Subscribe, share this with a friend who’s awakening, and leave a review telling us one word you’re retiring from your vocabulary. Your light belongs here.
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Hey, I'm Coach Mickey, and I'm so glad that you're here. And welcome. And if this is your first time joining us on Coach Mickey and Friends, come on in and make yourself comfortable. And for those of you that join us on a regular best basis, we are so glad that you do. And we're glad that you're here. And as you can see, this is a pretty easy-going podcast, and we're very comfortable about what we do. We embrace the mistakes, we embrace them, the sneezing, the coughing, and whatever else happens on this show. But I'm I'm really glad that you're here. And I want to thank so many of you for your comments, questions, and your suggestions, and the fact that so many of you reach out to my guests that are on here. And today is going to be so much fun. And this is a well-needed podcast today, uh, because just recently, and even myself, but also a lot of the women that I've been around, and then also the fact that this uh Nancy is one of my dearest friends. She's an amazing person, amazing individual. Uh, she's very uh genuine, authentic, and uh compassionate. And if this is a place for you to go to and feel confident and comfortable with, uh, Nancy's going to be your person. So I'm gonna tell you a little bit about her, and then we're gonna jump right in because what she has to offer is going to enlighten so many of us that are looking for uh specific things that we need in our lives. Uh, so Nancy is a teacher of life, she is a life sensei, and she is the founder of the Dojo, a space for awakened women who are ready to stop trying to fix themselves and start remembering who they truly are. And that's huge. So I'm just going to jump right in with this, Nancy. Oh, and before I forget, she is also an author. She's got incredible books. And as you guys know, if you're watching the YouTube channel, the links will be down below. If you're listening to the podcast, you can just click on her name, take it right to it. But she is the author of Secrets in the Attic, a woman's journey to empowerment, divorce. Uh, and there's many other things that she can tell you about that is going to help you and enlighten you wherever you are and meet you where you are in your life. So, welcome, Nancy. How are you?
SPEAKER_01:Hi, Mickey. Thank you for having me. I'm excited to be here with you. I always enjoy these conversations and how they unfold for us.
SPEAKER_00:Well, I like what you have to offer. And your books, first of all, are very insightful. And I'm kind of starting with that because I know your most recent one was Secrets in the Attic. And uh that I know a lot of people have enjoyed, and it's been full full of stories that are helpful. But also the shift that is happening now, and you and I have had this conversation, and your books, I think, have been the gateway and the leverage to be able to get people to a certain area at a certain point. But I think when people finally remember who they truly are, I think that kind of takes us back a little bit, and then we go, uh, who do I tell? What do I do with this?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. There's this amazing uh feeling of happiness and joy that is our true essence, our true being, the essence of who we are. And when we're not feeling that, that's an invitation to say, do you want to keep feeling kind of halfway, or do you want that bliss and that happiness and that joy? But I think there are so many people who are so used to um pushing it down, that joy and happiness down. And then there are so many people who are realizing that they have these innate gifts and talents that they were born with, and perhaps like maybe not even realizing it till they're, I don't know, 40s, 50s, 60s, and up, and they don't know what to do with it. They um they think, oh my gosh, if I tell anyone I can talk to angels or I am a healer, or um whatever it is, and it doesn't even have to be that, it could just be if I told anyone that I feel um truly amazing, they're gonna think I'm off my rocker and I don't have anyone to talk to about this. And that's why I created the dojo because those are the types of conversations that we have. And the dojo is a virtual place where we meet every week and women gather to talk about a specific topic every week. And if you join us live, you get to be part of the topic and then the conversation that ensues after the topic. But if you can't join us live, I do put the topics um in video form on my YouTube channel. So there is so much information out there. And wherever somebody needs to start, it's so it's just so important. I I want to use that word important to really love yourself. If you're not feeling that love and joy of self, that giddy optimism, that giddy happiness and excitement and saying something really wonderful is happening for me today, then that's your opportunity to say, okay, why are you blocking that? And that's the that's the energy and the vibrational frequency that I enjoy living in.
SPEAKER_00:And I love, I like the fact that you're actually offering this because so many times I think we we do something and we have this incredible joy, or we feel enlightened, or we feel like, oh my gosh, I really want to share this with somebody. And we don't have the people surrounding us to be able to do that. And and I and I you brought up a good point, which is a lot of times we stifle it. And and I think sometimes it for as us as women, we feel guilty that we feel happy or good about something when maybe things aren't going so great or things aren't happening, or maybe something's happening within our family life, and it's like, you know, uh, how can you be so happy when everything's falling apart? Or how you know, and it's like within a split second, you can be up here, and then somebody brings you down here. So we hesitate to share that excitement or that joy because we don't know if it's going to be embraced or if it's gonna be taken away from us, or we don't have anybody to actually share it with. And so to be have to have a place to go where the you have to offer is amazing because you get an opportunity to just come in and you know everybody that's coming in there has got something to share that's uplifting and it's gonna be applaud you and and and lift you up and be happy for you. And I think that's a huge uh thing that's missing right now in this world.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, and we can have these conversations and say, um, wow, I never really thought about it in those terms. And like I said, I pick a different topic every week, but last week, um, just because of something you said, what comes up for me is um, you know, we're we tend to think that we don't have um maybe the right to be this happy. Uh we look around and we see others are um maybe not feeling well, or they're in an unhappy relationship, or they are unhappy in their job, or they're unhealthy, um, or whatever it is. And so we think, oh gosh, okay, so I need to kind of stifle my feelings because this isn't the time or the place for me to be really buoyant and out there and happy, when actually your buoyancy and your happiness are what is going to raise their possibly raise their vibrational frequency. So whenever we are contrasting, whenever we are limiting ourselves, we really are taking that opportunity not only to feel it for ourselves and limiting it, but we are um also not giving to others who really need it. They really need that sense of effervescent happiness.
SPEAKER_00:I love that. I read uh something somewhere, I forget it was a long time ago. It was says, if someone doesn't have a smile, give them one of yours. Yeah, there you go.
SPEAKER_01:Even even if people like, you know, what the heck are you smiling about? Or, you know, and and the and the thing is to remember, like if you say to somebody, how how are you doing, or have a good day, or how's your day going, and they're like, Oh, not so great, it's not up to us to try to lift them up or raise them up. It's simply our only job, our only responsibility is our own self. So we can either allow that person to pull us down and lower our vibrational frequency, or we can just smile and say, Well, have a good day. And if they're grumpy when we walk away, and that sounds easy to do, but when you're in a relationship and people around you don't understand this change, um, you know, as we're awakening and really understanding what awakening means, awakening means it's you know, it's a continual process. It's just about awakening to who you are, understanding that you are the infinite being, that anything you want can and will happen in accordance to the way that you are putting it out there to the universe, what you believe to be true, the words you're saying. And our words have such a powerful vibrational frequency, and we use them so carelessly. Uh, when somebody says, you know, hey, how you doing today? Well, I'm hanging in there. Oh my gosh, think about that. I'm hanging in there. It's like, uh, you know, and we that's just like one example. We really don't stop and think about the words that we use. And what's interesting to me, I talk to a lot of people and they say, um, oh no, I'm really positive. I really, I practice affirmations, I'm an up person. And then they start to tell you how they have aches and pains and yada yada, and or I don't know, hate their job or whatever. And every word we say puts a vibrational frequency out into the universe. That doesn't mean that we have to lie and say, you know, things are going better than they than we think they are. But the truth is they are always going better than the way they think they are. And you know, I hear a lot of people are like, you know, where is God in all of this? When someone they lose someone close to them, like, where is God in all of this? And the thing is, is that I I I am seeing as well that that word God is such a trigger word for so many people. And whatever you call it, God, universe, infinite being, source, source intelligence. Um I have a friend who calls it Gus, God, universe, and source. So, you know, whatever we call it, it's really that love of self, that infinite being within you. And when you really grasp a hold of that and feel it, and you're walking around in that state of bliss, oh man, you don't want to let that go. And if you're not feeling that, like, okay, what is the awakening that's gonna happen for you? I know that my awakening came out in a big way during my divorce. And um, I was married for 32 years. And when I was going through the process of divorce, I call it three stages, thinking about it, going through it, and putting it behind you. But I realized looking back, I felt so much despair. And um, it's because you don't realize how much you hook your identity to what you're doing on a daily basis. So I'm not that wife, that mother, that homeowner, I'm not that job, I'm not that whatever. We are infinite being. We are, we can do anything, and whenever something is blocking that belief, or you're feeling so much contrast, whenever you're accepting those invitations for unworthiness or unhappiness or um just not loving your life, then that's an opportunity to say, you know what, I can keep accepting these invitations, or I can start declining them and start creating new things in my life. And that's the awakening continually, continually, continually.
SPEAKER_00:And I like what you said in regards to these things that we attach ourselves to. Because so many times, you know, you'll go out and you'll meet somebody and they'll go, I'm a chef, I'm I'm this, I'm an I'm an accountant. It's like, okay, but who are you? Oh, I'm a mom, I'm a dad, um, you know, I'm a sister. No, who are you? Yeah. So many people cannot answer that question. They can't. They they they they it they get stuck on it because when they have to stop and think, who am I? It's like that's a loaded question. No, it's not. You just really, you just never really thought about it because you've let everything else dictate and put labels on you that you don't allow yourself to just be who you are, who you like you say, who you truly are.
SPEAKER_01:Well, and I think a lot of people feel that to really speak out loud who they truly are. Like if someone says, Who are you? Um, you know, for you to answer, well, I am the infinite being having a human experience, people would be could be taken aback by that. And it's a great conversation starter, if nothing else. But then if somebody looks at you and says, Oh, aren't you high and mighty, or we we just hide our light so many times under a bushel, we really do.
SPEAKER_00:No, you're right. Be out of judgment, too. Like it's a good point. Because when somebody hasn't accepted that or they're on that same vibration or level, you know, of of growing, of self-growth, whether it's in, you know, uh for themselves emotionally, spiritually, whatever the situation is, they're so quick to judge. And like you said, oh, so so you're so better than everybody else, or you're this. It's like, why? You know, that's that's the part, I think that's why we stifle. But getting back to what you're offering, you're offering a place where people can come and be their authentic self and talk about these things and share these experiences and and have something that's incredible in their life that's happening, that they can go, hey, I really want to share this and talk about it, and then lift not just their vibration, but also everybody that's in that surrounding group. And people forget how powerful that is. You know, when you've got a group of people, and and I always um uh I tell my guys, and they always laugh, but I, you know, we always think we're fragile. And I said, no, a snowflake is fragile, but look how intense it is when they stick together, they can create an avalanche, you know, and and it's like I think the more times we try to come together, we become more empowered and more powerful in what we're trying to do. And even if it's just to spread joy and happiness, right?
SPEAKER_01:Well, and the thing is, is that um community is so can be so powerful, and yet community can be so stifling. So if let's just say in a family unit where you are awakening and really um realizing your true nature, and those around you have not gotten there yet or are not interested in getting there, um, now you're in a position, right? Do you do you allow yourself to be this joyful, happy person who is awakening and loving her life? Or do you kind of tone it down, dial it down, and say, well, you know, they're used to seeing me this way. And if I start being, I know when I was going through my divorce, I had people say to me, I don't think you really know who you are. I don't think you really know what you want. And these are people that had known me, you know, for a very long time. And the thing is, is like, it took me a while to realize, like, oh, wait a minute, that's what you're seeing. That's your perception. And because I am shifting, changing, growing, expanding, um, you don't know what to make of it. So you think that it's all just nuts. And so everything is always about somebody else, really. So if somebody says something to you, it's not anything to do with you, it's about whatever they're going through or wherever they are or however they're handling the expansion or the change or the shift. And um, you know, that's where you say you got to be really self, I was gonna say selfish, and I I think it should maybe be self-preserving and self-prioritizing and say, you know what, I'm prioritizing my own needs first and loving who I am. And who wants to join in can join in. And who's not ready to join in, that's okay too.
SPEAKER_00:Well, again, it goes back to meeting people where they are because a lot of times they just they're not ready, like you said. But then, but also I look at this way when you've got the courage to change your actions so you're bettering yourself and making things better, it also affects everybody else around you. And the ones that are gonna embrace it were the ones that will accept you for who you are no matter what. And then there's the other ones that they're just not ready and they can't understand it, so they're never gonna accept it, at least not at that time frame. And and you can't force it, you can't make it. And like I said, I've had people say to me, Oh, you're just going through a phase. No, I'm not, I'm going through a permanent change.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, like a growth spurt, you know, it's like, no, this is a shift. And once you every realization that you have, it's like it's like um an unfolding. And once you see it, you can't unsee it. So you know, you you can't go back. You can't put the lid, you can't put the lid on the pot anymore, nor would you want to, nor would you want to stifle yourself. And that's what the community at the dojo um think about any community. Why do people go to certain groups or have um hang around with certain people? It's because they feel good in that environment. And maybe they weren't feeling on top of the world before they started hanging around those people, but hanging around those people helped them come out of their funk. And that's what it's all about. It's being able to be with a group of people who um who get it. You can just say, you know what, I am feeling on top of the world. I am so happy. I have, I am so blessed, I can't even think of something that I need. And everyone in the room going, get it, got it, totally understand it. You don't have to explain yourself.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. That's great. So, how can people reach out to you that would like to be take part of this?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, anything you want to know, you can visit me at masteringyourbeliefs.com. Everything is there.
SPEAKER_00:And then I, as you guys know, the links will either be down below, or if you click on Nancy's name, it'll drive you right to her website and that'll take you to everything and every place, all her books and and where you can reach her. And then if you want to take part in in the dojo, that would uh lead you right to that also. So, so give us an example, Nancy. Like, so if somebody is saying, Okay, I'm I'm hearing this, I'm listening. So, what can they expect? So, when they come to, like you said, you always have a topic and then you you talk about. So, what what are some of the things that you're That you would invite people to come. And now I know let's just make this clear because you're doing this as a women's group. Is that correct?
SPEAKER_01:Yes. Women only. Yeah. Because not because there's any exclusion, but because I've it's just been my experience that women share differently in a group where there are only women in the group. So, you know, who knows? Maybe one day it'll be men and women dojo, and that'll be a whole different experience. But for now, we're keeping it this way. And things to expect, um, well, you know what? I think it's it's that weekly confirmation of self. Because we're going through our day, right? And and we have highs and lows. And one of the things that one of the members, and she I think she says this just about every week. It's so fun. She says, you know what? Every week I look forward to coming here. I never know what to expect. I never know what I'm going to get out of it, but it never disappoints. And I always feel so good having attended and being here and being around your women. And not to put any labels on it, but I think that's a great way to say it.
SPEAKER_00:I love it. That's great. I mean, that's that's pretty awesome. It's a place, again, where you feel confident, you can feel safe in a safe environment and be able to share. So I'm gonna let you wrap it up, Nancy. I don't know if we try to cover as much as we can because you've got so many things. And I know you've been on my podcast multiple times, and each time you always bring something inspiring and uplifting. So I'm gonna let you wrap up the last two minutes of whatever you want to share.
SPEAKER_01:Well, thank you. I I think what I would love for everyone to take away from this is do you love yourself? And do you really have a definition of what that love is? Because when you love someone and you look in their eyes, don't you just go all wiggly and melty and like ah? And so the question is, can you look yourself in the mirror, look yourself straight in the eye, and just feel that love of self that is so amazing that is such a gift, and if you're unable to do that, um ask yourself why? Why is that? Because there's an invitation that you keep accepting into unworthiness, and it's really time for you to get off that ride, right? It's just like being in an amusement park and getting on the same ride. I hate that ride, it makes me throw up, it makes me uncomfortable, and yet we get on the ride again and we get on the ride again. But you have the power to step off the ride or decline the ride at any time. That's what that's what my invitation would be.
SPEAKER_00:Well, thank you, Nancy, for being with us today. And for those of you, please reach out to Nancy. I think this would be something that would be a huge asset bonus in your life to be able to share and just be your true authentic self. And and I I'm grateful for you, Nancy. I'm so thankful that you offer so many things that you do and who you are as a person and how you've helped so many people through the years.
SPEAKER_01:Thank you, Mickey. Thank you for having me here. It's always wonderful to be able to share in conversation. Thank you.
SPEAKER_00:All right, you guys, thank you for being with us today. And uh again, please remember the links are down below, or click on Nancy's name. And if you want to reach out to me, also you will find my links also down below or within the podcast right at the bottom. And uh remember the most courageous thing you can do is be yourself. Until next week. I'll see you.